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My Mum’s milestone birthday

There are a few phrases which I hear again and again that both make me groan with annoyance as well as smile to myself.

One such phrase was this one that I heard several times in December, “Where has the time gone.  It’s not that long ago since the start of the year.”

I would groan inwardly to myself when I heard this.  I reasoned that the person I was speaking to had let the precious hours within their year slip past them.  They were wasting their life.  If they had filled their time with non-repetitive and worthwhile actions other than sitting watching television or some other time wasting activity, the year would have felt like a year to them rather than a few days that had somehow flowed uninterrupted into each other.  I would also smile to myself that I had had the foresight to not let all of my time escape me without being used – I wasted some minutes but not all.

And so, I always answered in the same way, “Yes, the start of the year seems like only eleven months ago.”

Already, so much seems to have happened to me in 2016 and we have not yet finished the second week of this leap year.  It is true that I have had some help in filling my time.  There was the office Christmas party last Friday (in January…I know!) and my mother’s 80th birthday last Sunday.

Ah, yes, my Mum had a great extended birthday weekend.

On Saturday, she invited Gloria and me to her bungalow for a small afternoon meal.

Sunday, Mum’s birthday, consisted of a trip to Church in the morning, lunch at my sisters’ house with a guest appearance by my other sister from North Lincolnshire (I was not at this meal); and then an evening service at a different Church with me.  This service was conducted by an old family friend, a Reverend like my late father, who led the congregation in singing ‘Happy Birthday to You’.

Finally, on Monday Mum had her 80th birthday hog roast at yet another Church.  Gloria (and I) baked the cake and my sister’s bloke and his brother provided the hog roast.  Gloria would have been at work but, to my Mum’s delight, she was able to come.


Mum and Gloria

The reason why Gloria did not go to work was that she was given some emergency time off.  Unfortunately, Yasmin was very unwell on Sunday and after the hog roast Gloria and I collected Yasmin’s prescription and drove up to give it to her.  Anyway, that’s another story.

It was a wonderful afternoon.  Oh, my apologies if you are reading this on a smartphone as you may not see the whole of the photograph without opening it in a separate browser window.

I made one observation.  At the end of the engagement, I was washing up all of the plates, mugs, glasses and cutlery and looked around the kitchen.  Also helping in the kitchen were my sister’s partner, his mother and also my sister’s eldest son who is one of two children from her first marriage.  In other words, we were demonstrating how it’s nonsense that kitchen chores are all women’s work!

I hope that I enjoy myself just as much on my 80th birthday as my mother did.

24 responses to “My Mum’s milestone birthday

  1. therealliferealtalk 14 Jan 2016 at 01:03

    I absolutely need to know what she uses to maintain her youthful appearance! Her skin is wrinkle free and flawless! Happy belated B-Day Mum; you’re simply beautiful 💕

  2. Aadil Shah 14 Jan 2016 at 02:27

    Time is like a flowing river. You can use the force of the flow to turn a millstone. You can collect water from it as often as you want. But any water that you allow to flow past is lost to you forever.

  3. ~~ emzlee :) 14 Jan 2016 at 12:01

    Aww… you’re mom looks younger her age. 🙂

    You must be a very good son. hehe.. Say happy birthday to your mom from me…

  4. AlluringEby 15 Jan 2016 at 13:11

    Happy birthday to your young looking mom! I agree that having a wonderful son adds to that look.
    Time… sometimes I just watch it flow by… I have come to learn that doing meaningful things with my time does not only revolve around doing a nine to five or other money making ventures, but more importantly involves other sacrificial, non paying stuffs like just being a good son, mother, neighbour, etc.

    • Harry...the Man! 15 Jan 2016 at 14:33

      Thank you for your words about my Mum.

      I think that your assessment of how to use time is spot on. Time slips away if you do your job and little much else.

  5. d4rkn1ght 15 Jan 2016 at 19:49

    Happy 80th birthday to your mom! 🙂 Her 90th birthday should last a week, and her 100th a month! 😀

  6. Stephanie Faris 16 Jan 2016 at 17:32

    Happy birthday to your mom. That is quite a milestone. I’ve found the years where I live in a state of routine are the years where time passes quickly. Years seem long when you look back and find that I accomplished quite a few things during that year. Time flies when you’re NOT having fun!


    • Harry...the Man! 16 Jan 2016 at 20:28

      Thank you, Stephanie both for visiting and your comment.

      Yes, what you say does make sense. Carrying on with a routine makes time slip away and leave no memories to fill that gap of time in your head.

  7. Nandini 18 Jan 2016 at 22:15

    Glad to know your mom had a great 80th birthday. Wishing her the very best and many wonderful years to come. Happy Monday Harry!

  8. derwandersmann 24 Jan 2016 at 16:08

    A belated Happy Birthday to your mum, Harry!

  9. chape 21 Feb 2016 at 15:12

    I wish your wonderful mother the best and many years to come 🙂
    Also, great final observation, Harry 😉

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